Wednesday, September 30, 2009

dating


i, personally, find dating quite complicated.

the intricacies, etiquette, etc. etc. are rather troublesome and mind boggling. the games, in particular, are flat out annoying. this is a perspective that i've had ever since i can remember, which is probably why i never really dedicated very much time to thinking about dating or relationships...or placed much emphasis on either aspect as part of my "life goals". i have probably thought more about men and dating in the past 8 months than i have for the last 20 years. this recent attention doesn't translate into a sudden fascination with the subject. this recent attention translates into the foodie hunter reciting "what have i learned from this and what do i do to ensure that i do not make the same mistakes again?".

see...ever practical i am.

there are many ironies here....that despite this dismissive perspective and my admitted cluelessness or lack of "radar" when knowing when a guy is interested...this is the longest that i have ever been single...and, well, i like it. a lot.

i was reminded of this the other day when i stopped into a local place that serves indonesian and singaporean food. i'm still on my "must try 1 new thing or place a week" kick and hence my stopping into this place. while i was looking through the menu, i couldn't help but remember a date i went on with a guy from singapore who took me to an indonesian place in the city. i remember we had this fried egg thing that i liked a lot, so i was diligently looked through the menu to find it. while i was looking through the menu, i remembered that singaporean guy was trying to "test me" by ordering gizzards and hearts on our date. he wanted to see if me and my american foodie hunter self was willing to eat something like that and was actually quite condescending about it.

this is not the best way to get into the foodie hunter's good graces.

did i get on my little soap box about eating offal ever since i can remember and how "treats" were things like who got the chicken heart with the congee or slices of offal fresh out of a pot were snacked on while other things like pigs feet or stock including sublime marrow bones were cooking in the kitchen?

nope, i just took a big scoop, put it on my plate, pretended like he wasn't doing what he was really doing.

needless to say, we didn't see each other for very long.

just thinking about experiences like that one are almost enough to temper my usually voracious appetite. note, that i said "almost". as after i ordered and the tahu telor bali (fried hard boiled eggs with chili sauce) arrived....

as well as my nasi uduk jakarta (some spicy beef, egg green onion omelet, a fried curry-spiced chicken on the bone...and a scoop of an anchovy peanut salad thing)....

here is another shot so you can see the garnish....


i was very much focused back on food and not so much on prior dating experiences. i dug into my food and started chomping away....


i really enjoyed the tahu telor bali quite a bit....



and i must admit that my favorite of the lunch special i ordered was actually the fried crispy anchovies and peanut thing....very tasty!!!


as i was finishing up the meal,



i thought more about the dating thing. i suppose some things don't change.....dating still continues to not be a priority for me. i mean, if i meet a hard-charging, driven, intelligent, super duper intense person who i have a connection with...well, then i won't be stupid (well...hopefully i won't be stupid....i do identify opportunities for a living)....but i'm not exactly seeking it out either.

i think this is one of those rare things that the foodie hunter will leave in the fates' hands. what will be...will be. is it possible to be a dating pacifist?

hey, did i just make up a new term? if so, that would be cool! i think i'll google it...

4 comments:

Victoria said...

Weeeellllll, except that if you don't ask for what you want, then you get whatever schlock the universe happens to float by you...

foodie hunter said...

if the universe floats "a hard-charging, driven, intelligent, super duper intense person who i have a connection with" by me, then ok...if not, then i'll just let the schlock float by...

Victoria said...

You would never, ever, ever be this blasé about anything else in your life. Just as an observation.

foodie hunter said...

this is true. if something is a priority for me, than i go after it. yet, in this case, it isn't a priority for me. this is where i am at.